HappytobeFree,
We really think a lot alike. Whenever I go to post you have pretty much already said what I would.
Struggle,
STUDY, RESEARCH, COMPARE, you may find some interesting things. Don't just use the Societies publications. Research everything and compare it to the Bible, not what you have learned. Your concept may be completely different.
TW
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What are the reasons?
by neyank inhi all,.
someone asked me the other day why i am so interested in reading about jws,ex jws and things that are going on with the wts.. i think for the most part,only those who have been involved with the wts can understand why we are so interested in the subject.. of course having believed everything the wts has told us over the years and dedicating our lives to it kept us tied in with them.. what are the different reasons that you all have for continuing to be preocupied with the wts?.
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Do we need a 'Faithful and Discrete Slave' ?
by ISP inthere is a thread already started on the subject of the fds elsewhere but i thought we may as well deal with aspect.. do we need a fds?.
what would we miss if we didn't have one?.
what additional new light do we need?.
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ISP,
Refresh my memory, are you a witness?
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Heresy of the Month
by thinker inheresy of the month (from a website).
don't you hate it when someone you know comes up with some new thing that you have never heard about?
you sit there in apparent ignorance as they pontificate about the proofs and merits of some idea so far beyond common knowledge that it can only be revealed by people of exceptional enlightenment such as they.
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thinkers wife
RHW,
What does ROFL mean? I am so dumb. And you better behave or I'll come up there and take you to task personally.
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Confessing
by STRUGGLE inhello, i was reading judical com.
was really suprise to find out how some of jw's feel.
some have, like the single mom, have such a negative experience with them.
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thinkers wife
Amen Brother Carmel,
My husband was raised a Catholic and I have used that very analogy with him.
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Heresy of the Month
by thinker inheresy of the month (from a website).
don't you hate it when someone you know comes up with some new thing that you have never heard about?
you sit there in apparent ignorance as they pontificate about the proofs and merits of some idea so far beyond common knowledge that it can only be revealed by people of exceptional enlightenment such as they.
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thinkers wife
Such language RHW. Tsk, tsk, tsk, just because you have bestowed the mantra on Zazu, doesn't mean you don't have to set the proper example for the rest of us.
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Confessing
by STRUGGLE inhello, i was reading judical com.
was really suprise to find out how some of jw's feel.
some have, like the single mom, have such a negative experience with them.
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thinkers wife
Struggle,
Glad to hear you are at peace with yourself.
Absolutely RHW is correct, in everything she says. It reflects my exact sentiments!!!
Read and reread it and take it heart. For it is true.
Thank you for letting us know. Looking forward to hearing from you again very soon.
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What are the reasons?
by neyank inhi all,.
someone asked me the other day why i am so interested in reading about jws,ex jws and things that are going on with the wts.. i think for the most part,only those who have been involved with the wts can understand why we are so interested in the subject.. of course having believed everything the wts has told us over the years and dedicating our lives to it kept us tied in with them.. what are the different reasons that you all have for continuing to be preocupied with the wts?.
neyank
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thinkers wife
Ooops! It was Neyank with the f.s. thing not Trevor.
Trevor, Definately the common ground.
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What are the reasons?
by neyank inhi all,.
someone asked me the other day why i am so interested in reading about jws,ex jws and things that are going on with the wts.. i think for the most part,only those who have been involved with the wts can understand why we are so interested in the subject.. of course having believed everything the wts has told us over the years and dedicating our lives to it kept us tied in with them.. what are the different reasons that you all have for continuing to be preocupied with the wts?.
neyank
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thinkers wife
I reflect everyone's thoughts here to a certain extent. This db is also a support group for me. It is so wonderful just as RHW put it to find other intelligent people with common experiences to interact with.
It has also been a great healing place for me.
Actually, I think my non-JW husband is more interested in the actual premise of the JW's than I am. I've been there and done that.
Trevor, I felt the same way as you about f.s.
Happy to be Free,
It is always my fear that others will be sucked in. And I regret terribly the one's I have sucked in personally. It is the bane of my life. I am a people lover, which is why I preached in the first place. It was my way of "saving some of the world".
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Heresy of the Month
by thinker inheresy of the month (from a website).
don't you hate it when someone you know comes up with some new thing that you have never heard about?
you sit there in apparent ignorance as they pontificate about the proofs and merits of some idea so far beyond common knowledge that it can only be revealed by people of exceptional enlightenment such as they.
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thinkers wife
Larc,
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Living A Lie
by MoodyBlue ini am sick of living a lie, yet afraid to change it.
married to a man who refuses to listen, who would rather plug his ears and shout "nooooooo" is taking it's tole.
i am afraid to speak my mind about my doubt, my thoughts, and what i'm learning, as i'm not ready to cross that point of no return.
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thinkers wife
First of all let me just say, THIS IS A WONDERFUL place. Real caring people.
Moody Blue,
Such a tough situation. It is hard to make recommendations based on one post. And really, as you mentioned ultimately you have to decide the best course for you. Only you are walking around in your shoes.
You do seem to realize, and if you don't realize it now, it is O.K. to have doubts and question. That is why we have brains and intelligence. It is O.K. to use them. IMHO, when we stop thinking and questioning, we die on the inside. So don't feel guilty for thinking, it is a good thing. Change is a good thing too, under the right circumstances.
All the advice presented here is good. Do yourself a favor and take it. It can't do you any harm. And in the long run could really benefit you.
Take it one day at a time. Try to have good communication with your husband about things that you can communicate about openly. Discussing your doubts with him might not be a great idea right now. But you can spend time with him and build on other things. But take the others' advice and satisfy you own mind.
One thing I learned the hard way through therapy was "Take care of yourself. You can't take care of anyone else or even love someone else healthily and properly, until you take care of yourself". This is so important. Allow yourself the time and luxury of thinking. Find out what truly satisfies you and makes you content. This may take a lot of time. I didn't have the luxury of spending that time for a very long while. Once I took the time, I was amazed where my mind took me. And it became very clear after a while what really brought me joy. Nurture your inner soul. Let it grow. Let it be free. Give it the room it needs to breathe and expand. Give your imagination free reign. It is O.K. to be who you are, even if it is only to yourself for awhile.
I am going to stop for now, but give every suggestion on this thread serious consideration. And may all your real needs be fulfilled.
TW